August 23, 2007

Permanent change

I recommend the following book about personal change. I’ve heard this guy speak, without a doubt, the most articulate person I have ever seen in person. Many of us on the had to change (and are in the process of changing) our mindset about women. His material has stood the test of time, and he has been doing this for many, many years.

What To Say When You Talk To Yourself by Dr. Shad Helmstetter (it costs less than $10)

Basic summary:

Our behavior (actions) is determined by our feelings

Our feelings are determined by our attitudes

Our attitudes are determined by our beliefs

Our beliefs are determined by our programming

So, if we want to change how we act (establish better habits, do the things that make us more successful) we have to give new programming to our brain.

Reprogram our mind >> new beliefs >> new attitudes >> new feelings >> new behavior

The second half of the book is how to re-program your brain by changing your thinking.

Two things many of us face with women.

1) We get anxious around very beautiful women or women with strong personalities.

2) Temporary success that only lasts while we are in periods of focused activity. (Dieting, exercise spurts, trying to establish new habits)

I think this is why so many external methods fail to permanently change our behavior with/toward women.

If we change our behavior/actions internally so that they are automatic anytime, anyplace, anywhere; we will get better results with more women.

Invest $10 in your future.


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