More than one! Are you crazy?

Our society doesn't take too kindly to a guy having more than one girlfriend.

Think of all the words that have negative connotations: player, womanizer, Casanova, Don Juan, philanderer, lady's man, wolf... just to name a few. It's much more culturally acceptable in other parts of the world. It's even in the bible. (RHM, you can't say that!) Many early jewish patriarchs had multiple wives.

Sometimes, it's problematic; but real men like challenges and the consequential rewards. I am here to look at the bright side of maintaining multiple-long-term-relationships (MLTR's)with several women. Even when you read that, some guilty thoughts enter your mind. You need to work on that.


Let's look at the upside:

1) The flaws that she has will not bother you as much because you are not tied solely to her

2) You don't act all goofy on one woman and forget your masculinity in the chase for sex

3) Variety. It's the spice of life.

4) One woman does not control you.

5) You spend a lot less money, because you no longer date to "woo." Hell, you don't even have to date. You now spend quality time with more than one lady. That's what the relationship part means: it's no longer about impressing her.


MLTRs, not popular with a whole lot of people... but a hell of a lot of fun.



RHM

Permanent change

I recommend the following book about personal change. I’ve heard this guy speak, without a doubt, the most articulate person I have ever seen in person. Many of us on the had to change (and are in the process of changing) our mindset about women. His material has stood the test of time, and he has been doing this for many, many years.


What To Say When You Talk To Yourself by Dr. Shad Helmstetter (it costs less than $10)


Basic summary:

Our behavior (actions) is determined by our feelings

Our feelings are determined by our attitudes

Our attitudes are determined by our beliefs

Our beliefs are determined by our programming


So, if we want to change how we act (establish better habits, do the things that make us more successful) we have to give new programming to our brain.

Reprogram our mind >> new beliefs >> new attitudes >> new feelings >> new behavior


The second half of the book is how to re-program your brain by changing your thinking.



Two things many of us face with women.

1) We get anxious around very beautiful women or women with strong personalities.

2) Temporary success that only lasts while we are in periods of focused activity. (Dieting, exercise spurts, trying to establish new habits)


I think this is why so many external methods fail to permanently change our behavior with/toward women.


If we change our behavior/actions internally so that they are automatic anytime, anyplace, anywhere; we will get better results with more women.

Invest $10 in your future.


RHM

No apology necessary

Last week, a brazilian woman told me that one big difference, between American men and men in her country, is that American men apologize too much. What? Seems like we have been trained to be too polite. Cutting in line, bumping someone in a crowd, or some perceived rudeness must be followed by remorse.

Lots of times we apologize for just being men. Being aggressive, being bold, acting wild, and being sexually charged. I believe that the word "sorry" crosses our lips far too often.

We need to reframe our minds that many times "no apology is necessary."


I am a man, therefore:

I like sex
I am competitive
I piss standing up
I fight for my loved ones
I like bikinis
I like breasts
I like women's butts
I like legs (get the picture?)
I like a challenge
I like to walk in front
I am not afraid of the dark
I like to go fast
I catch what I chase
I know when not to chase
I belch (even when no one is around)
I like getting dirty
I flirt with women
I speak my mind


RHM