Are you a sucker?

It's not my job/obligation/duty to feed or entertain a woman who I am interested in sexually. Buying meals/movies/drinks will not get you laid. Charm, charisma, and confidence will get you laid. I am interested in attracting and seducing her versus entertaining her.


Example #1: I met a woman and spent $4.63 on coffee for both of us. That's it. I had sex with her on 5 different occasions. Oops, one time I ordered a pizza delivery.

Example #2: I have been hanging out with another woman for 9 months; I took her to coffee once and to drinks another time. I have not bought her dinner or any gifts. And yes, she is a very pretty, great shape, sane woman.


Are all women like this? Probably not. But all woman will follow the ground rules you establish. If you start out buying/paying for everything... that's the way it's going to be with her. If you take turns paying, then you are on solid footing.


Here's something I think many guys learn deeply AFTER they have been married: Women will use you for your money. They have no qualms about it and their reward system is not fairly balanced. Just watch those Real Housewives of Orange County on that lame TV show.


Now, the younger American women still buy into this and have no problem letting you pay for a movies/meals/dates and still not give you any pussy.


So why spend the money? I cannot come up with a good reason yet. Oh yeah, I just thought of one: if the woman is staying at home to raise your child, go ahead and pay for the date. Other than that, you could be a sucker.


If I want a "date", I will invite a woman over & cook dinner for her for the following reasons. 1) If she says yes, she knows that sex is on the menu; 2) I establish myself as a socially calibrated man that is self-sufficient with most of his act together.



RHM

Maintaining Multiple Friends with Benefits...

Women enjoy sex as much men. Chisel that into the granite between your ears.


How does a guy maintain multiple friends with benefits?


One word.... F-R-A-M-E.


"I like your company, you like mine. I enjoy having sex with you. We can hang out when both of our schedules allow."



The tricky thing with FB's is that if you keep them long term they become a non-traditional girlfriend. I treat them nice but in a non-traditional way, meaning very few "dates."


They have an implicit understanding that there exist other women in your world. It's just not a good idea to go into details of who/what/where/when/how. And you certainly do not want to know who they are sleeping with besides you.


They will be watching your actions to see if you are communicating a deeper relationship. That's what many of them desire.



Here are my personal guidelines:


1) Phone communication/text message once weekly, maybe twice. Maintain space.

2) No gifts/romantic cards/notes/emails. If dinner, it's at her house. Maybe mine.

3) Relationship is of a sexual nature not a nurturing one, request for time = booty calls

4) Use compliments sparingly; especially in the heat of passion or the afterglow

5) Do not get emotional with them, only enough emotional push/pull that they know you have some iota of care for them

6) Henry Ford rule: always meet subordinates at their office, you can leave when you are finished (in case you missed that... meet at her house)

7) Twice a week with any one particular chick is the maximum. If you need more sex, go get another FB.

8 ) Limit overnight stays. Since it's a big emotional benchmark for a chick, staying overnight is usually too "boyfriend/girlfriend." Most guys do it to get the a.m. round of sex... try to maintain emotional space.



The whole relationship is a balance between: you using her and her using you. She will leave if/when a better deal comes along. Or you can let her fall by the wayside as you improve the quality of your rotation. A steady supply of sex will improve your bedroom skills, techniques, and stamina.


Now you have options, just like a hot babe...



RHM

It's simple... but will you do it?

Just a couple random thoughts I had while contemplating recent interactions with women:


- If you talk to enough women, you will find the ones attracted to you. Talk to every woman you find attractive.


- Work twice as much on yourself as you do on your game. You will get more out of reading the books yourself than listening to a guru summarize it.


- Read, travel, study, fine tune your hobbies... become a man of substance. Your self-esteem will soar.


- Study game and you get some results. Become a man who has skills, goals, cultivated talents and the ability to communicate your passions... and you will get unbelievable results.


RHM

Culitvate your talents...

What would you attempt, if you knew you couldn't fail?


Part of becoming an attractive man (a man who attracts hot women) is to become a man of substance. There's more to you than just smooth talk and a pretty face. There's more to you than the last woman you took to bed.



Do you like photography? Hone your skills, become great at it.


Do you like music? Learn how to play an instrument, I recommend the acoustic guitar for it's general appeal and portability.


Do you like to cook? Watch the food network & practice. Wow her in the kitchen.


Do you like sports? Don't just be a gym rat, compete on the field. Run road races. Join a social sports league. Learn to play social sports like tennis & golf.


Do you like talking to people? Join a networking group. Join a meetup.com group. Go to upscale happy hours.


Do you like to travel? Go as many places as you can by plane, train, and automobile. There are probably some great places within 2 hours of your house. You will collect great stories.


Do you like helping people? Find a charity, relative or loved one that could use your assistance. Do it on a regular basis.



Finding a few of these things to be passionate about gives you substance. Other people recognize substance. Your passions make you attractive.


RHM